Mums share what pregnancy advice they would give themselves pre-baby if they had the chance.
37 weeks now and about to pop! Time sure flies!
Early into this pregnancy
Navigating first-time pregnancy is a difficult thing – on top of the fact that it is a physically and emotionally tasking time, there’s different schools of thought about many things, different cultures, different personalities. Many will want to give you advice, most in hopes to help, but sometimes the advice gets overwhelming.
Sometimes while even when the goal was to offer support, advice becomes preachy. Advice feels like something that is forced on you, and something that you need to take. Because of this, I’ve decided to change my perspective. Instead of asking my mum friends, “What advice can you give me?” I started asking “What advice would you give you have given yourself pre-baby, knowing what you know now?”
Asking this, I’ve come across some affirming and sincere pregnancy advice from some wonderful mums. If you are expecting for the first time, read on and take what you think would work for you.
On Pre-baby Stress –
One word. Stop! Relax, stay calm, you HAVE done enough cleaning/shopping/packing/etc Now grab your partner, snuggle on the sofa with your favourite films and foods and wait for that sofa to feel just a little more crowded. Take this moment in, magical mama, it’s beautiful! – Jen, https://www.mumbeta.com/
On Negativity and Paranoia –
Get excited! You’re about to go on the most amazing journey of your life! Ignore all the negative things, don’t go on google too much, eat whatever you want and remember, YOU GOT THIS! –
On Appreciating Pregnancy
My advice to myself would be to go all out on the pregnancy self-care and do the things you’re not going to get the chance to do for a while. It’s a strange and wonderful time – the calm before the chaos – and you’ve got to appreciate it because your life isn’t going to be the same after. I’d also recommend enjoying your bump (I was really sad to say goodbye to that)! – Eliza, Elizaflynn.co.uk
Sleep while you can! Oh my goodness I would have slept all day every day if I had known how rare it would become! – Kate, www.everafterwithkids.com
Be kind to yourself, it’s ok if you don’t leave the house some days. Or change out of your pj’s. – Louise, Pinkpearbear.com
On Childbirth Fears
Try not to have too many expectations on the process of giving birth and those early days, just go with the flow and focus on the positives. – Christy, www.welshmum.co.uk
Let your family and friends know your wishes for after the baby is born, you might want to spend some time with your little family before friends come and visit you. – Vicky, www.misstillyandme.co.uk
Visitors… it’s lovely that everyone wants to see
On Breastfeeding Fears
Not to put too much pressure on yourself to breastfeed perfectly from day 1. It’s difficult and both you and the baby are learning, it’s a process. And, if it doesn’t work out for whatever reason you’re not failing, as long as your baby is happy and fed then you’re doing a great job! – Emma, dirtdiggersanddinosaurs.com
On New-Mum Life
Trust your instincts if you think
You will learn quite quickly what your baby needs
Relax and enjoy it more. They are only little once. -Jo, www.arosetintedworld.co.uk
Let’s be kind to each other
I think what is important to understand is that while the process is pretty much the same, the way it affects people can be different. As women who are going through the same sometimes daunting, mostly wonderful miracle of life, we need to be kind and supportive of each other
Are you a mum? What advice would you give yourself if you can speak to your pregnant self right now? Feel free to share below!